Love affair with a fictional icon

"Her name has become synonymous with style and the chic, single-girl lifestyle.

She represents the new woman’s funny, sharp, likable everygirl. She’s Carrie Bradshaw, possibly one of the most influential fictional characters to ever influence a generation. Sex and the City played a huge role in revolutionizing the way America views single women; presenting the idea that we do not have to be programmed primarily to achieve the cookie-cutter life targets we’ve been told we should reach for so long (marriage, house, baby, etc). Instead, the bachelorette cherishes single life, independence and freedom. The major storylines in the show, however, do center on not whether or not the characters do in fact marry, have children, or even serious relationships, but how they do it–without losing their sense of self. Being single is not the key, a sense of self is, and Carrie Bradshaw leads the way.
Along with many other women around the world, I have always identified with Carrie. She’s all about opening your heart and your mind at the same time. She’s witty, she’s sharp, she’s sexy–but all in a very accessible, believable way. Mine and Carrie’s “storylines” have coincided as I have watched and re-watched the show and begun to experience my single life as a young woman. While I’m not near my thirties, I still feel the inevitable pull from older influences–and society in general–to “settle down,” whatever that means. For Carrie and I, marriage and “happily ever after” is not the be-all, end-all in life. And just like Carrie, I’m a career-focused girl but not necessarily as schooled or as driven as the other three women on the show.
I feel akin to Carrie in many ways. She party's and drinks and has had a fair helping of casual dating , but at the end of the day, she’s an old-fashioned girl. She believes in the One, she believes in romance, and most of all, she believes in love. She’s sentimental and reflective. All women are complex, but I relate to Carrie a lot in this way too–her needs and feelings are often conflicted and result in charged and sometimes difficult relationships with men. She’s had to know when to walk away, and it’s bittersweet; especially in her second breakup with Aidan, whom she truly loved and respected, but it just didn’t work, and she couldn’t be what he wanted her to be. It’s never easy to strike a balance. Not just anyone will do. Mischiko Kakutani accused Carrie of “disposing” of men when she reviewed her book in Season Five; I’ve had many of my older friends and colleagues say the same thing to me. But I digress: When searching for a soulmate, one can never be too picky. And so continues the endless search. Carrie was looking for love, real love. “Ridiculous, consuming, can’t live without each other love.” And she found it, as we all hoped and predicted–in Mr. Big.
It’s easy to make a sweeping judgment of the carefree single girl–Carrie and myself included–and throw out terms like “promiscuous” and the like. Aside from the ludicrous societal double-standard, I like to believe that I’ve maintained a moral compass. You can’t look back, you can only learn. Carrie is flawed. I am flawed. We trip over things, we can’t (don’t?) cook, have messy apartments and high credit card bills due to an unshakable shopping addiction. But she’s real–still fictional–but that’s what makes the show so amazing.

The writers really, really made Carrie real and relatable to all of us. We can look at her and say: “I’m her.”

360

Now I understand what that has hovered in my head ... The pulse wants to talk and my hand can not stop ... Now I understand when eyes become indiscretion on lies and deceit ... Now that the lights are stopped and the world is still spinning, I understand, how important are the heartfelt things, that if we do not give way to feelings and desires, it is impossible clarity; that indifference covers with silences fears to lose. .. Now that it is impossible to forget feelings that arise when you're near ... Now that the devil said that attempts to disappear, I fight for what I feel; perhaps someday emerge effect and the world stops when traffic lights change color, maybe someday the world has value and formulate a sudden shift of 360 degrees ...

Seem Perfect

Her plan was very simple: spend together the rest of her days.
A plan everybody consider feasible.
No one doubted that they will be great friends, lovers, even soul mates.
She is fun, sometimes uptight and gentle.
He is free spirit, caring and tender.
Seem perfect.

But given the chance that one day the fate changed his mind.

Now she wonders in the world of the unknown.
Constantly struggling between her heart and mind.
Now she needs time.
To make things right.
Now she only wants a hand that somehow feels right.

believing in what's possible...

Maybe it began with coloring outside the lines.
Eating ice cream with a fork.
Or wearing your mom's shoes because the were more glamorous than yours.
But somewhere early on you learned it was possible to live life beyond the rules.
SO you traded NO for WHY NOT.
And as you dared to look farther, new horizons opened up for you.
It's a spirit we call moving forward but you may think of it simply as believing in what's possible.
Which, as you found out long ago, also makes life a lot more fun!

Everything Happens For A Reason

Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there...to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson or help figure out who you are or who you want to become.
You never know who these people may be, but when you lock eyes with them, you know that very moment that they will affect your life in someprofound way.
And sometimes things happen to you at the time that may seem horrible, painful and unfair, but in reflection you realize that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength, will power or heart.
Everything Happens For A Reason
Nothing happens by chance or by means of good luck. Illness injury, love, lost moments of true greatness, and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without these small testslife would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere. Safe and comfortable but dull and utterly pointless.
The people you meet affect your life.....
The successes and downfalls that you experience can create who you are,and the bad experiences can be learned from. In fact, they are probably the most poignant and important ones. If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them because they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart to. If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you but because they are teaching you to love and open your heart and eyes to little things.
Make every day count.......
Appreciate every moment and take from it everything that you possibly can, for you may never be able to experience it again. Talk to people you have never talked to before, and actually listen. Let yourself fall in love, break free and setyour sights high. Hold your head up because you have every right to.
Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don't believe in yourself, no one else will believe in you.
Create your own life and then go out and live it.

few things worth holding on to

Who gets to determine when the old ends and the new begin? It’s not on the calendar, it’s not a birthday, and it’s not a new year. It’s an event, big or small, something that changes us. Ideally, that gives us hope, a new way of living and looking at the world, a way of letting go of old habits, old memories. What's important is that we never stop believing we can have a new beginning, but it's also important to remember that, amid all the crap, there are a few things worth holding on to.