"Enamorarse de un gran hombre"

(Escrito por un hombre)

Es la primera vez que escribo sobre nosotros los hombres que siempre nos caracterizamos por ser el sexo fuerte, aunque
muchas veces caemos por debilidad.Un día, mi hermana lloraba en su habitación... Con mucha nostalgia, observé que mi padre se le acercó y le preguntó
el motivo de su tristeza.Los escuché hablando por horas, pero hubo una frase tan especial que dijo mi padre esa tarde, que hasta el día de
hoy, 8 años más tarde, la recuerdo cada mañana y me llena
de fuerza.

Mi padre acariciándole el rostro, le dijo:
"Hija mía, enamórate de un Gran Hombre y no volverás a llorarsino de alegría"Me pregunte tantas veces, cuál era la fórmula exacta para llegar a ser ese gran hombre y no dejarme vencer por las
pequeñeces.Conforme pasan los años, descubrimos que si tan solo todos loshombres lucháramos por ser grandes de espíritu, grandes de alma y grandes de corazón...¡el mundo sería completamente distinto!.Aprendí que un Gran Hombre no es aquel que compra todo lo que desea, pues habemos tantos que hemos comprado hasta el cariño
y el respeto de quienes nos rodean.Mi padre le decía: "No busques a un hombre que solo hable de sí mismo, sin preocuparse por ti, ni a aquel que se pase las horas
halagando sus propios logros.No te aferres a un hombre que te critique y te diga lo mal que te ves, o lo mucho que deberías cambiar. ¿Para que quieres a un hombre que te abandonará si no cambias, por un cabello más claro, por unos ojos de otro color, o por un cuerpo más esbelto, si no supo admirar la verdadera belleza que hay en ti?" Me costó trabajo comprender! que un GRAN HOMBRE no es el que llega más alto, ni el que vive rodeado de mujeres.Un verdadero y gran hombre es aquel ser humano lleno de transparencia, que no oculta sus verdaderos sentimientos ni se refugia
en vicios y cortinas de humo, es el que abre su corazón sin rechazar la realidad, es quien admira a una mujer por sus cimientos morales y su grandeza interior.Un Gran Hombre, es que el camina de frente, sin bajar la mirada y sabe llorar su dolor. Hoy mi hermana esta felizmente casada, y ese Gran Hombre con quien se caso no era ni el más popular, ni el más perseguido, ni el más solicitado, nimucho menos el más adinerado.

Ese Gran Hombre es quien simplemente es quien la hace sonreír por lo mucho que han logrado juntos, por todos sus recuerdos, por cada alegría que comparten y la quiere por quien ella es.

history-

"Some people believe that without history, our lives amount to nothing. At some point we all have to choose: do we fall back on what we know, or do we step forward to something new? It's hard not to be haunted by our past. Our history is what shapes us... what guides us. Our history resurfaces time after time after time. So we have to remember sometimes the most important history is the history we’re making today."

Love affair with a fictional icon

"Her name has become synonymous with style and the chic, single-girl lifestyle.

She represents the new woman’s funny, sharp, likable everygirl. She’s Carrie Bradshaw, possibly one of the most influential fictional characters to ever influence a generation. Sex and the City played a huge role in revolutionizing the way America views single women; presenting the idea that we do not have to be programmed primarily to achieve the cookie-cutter life targets we’ve been told we should reach for so long (marriage, house, baby, etc). Instead, the bachelorette cherishes single life, independence and freedom. The major storylines in the show, however, do center on not whether or not the characters do in fact marry, have children, or even serious relationships, but how they do it–without losing their sense of self. Being single is not the key, a sense of self is, and Carrie Bradshaw leads the way.
Along with many other women around the world, I have always identified with Carrie. She’s all about opening your heart and your mind at the same time. She’s witty, she’s sharp, she’s sexy–but all in a very accessible, believable way. Mine and Carrie’s “storylines” have coincided as I have watched and re-watched the show and begun to experience my single life as a young woman. While I’m not near my thirties, I still feel the inevitable pull from older influences–and society in general–to “settle down,” whatever that means. For Carrie and I, marriage and “happily ever after” is not the be-all, end-all in life. And just like Carrie, I’m a career-focused girl but not necessarily as schooled or as driven as the other three women on the show.
I feel akin to Carrie in many ways. She party's and drinks and has had a fair helping of casual dating , but at the end of the day, she’s an old-fashioned girl. She believes in the One, she believes in romance, and most of all, she believes in love. She’s sentimental and reflective. All women are complex, but I relate to Carrie a lot in this way too–her needs and feelings are often conflicted and result in charged and sometimes difficult relationships with men. She’s had to know when to walk away, and it’s bittersweet; especially in her second breakup with Aidan, whom she truly loved and respected, but it just didn’t work, and she couldn’t be what he wanted her to be. It’s never easy to strike a balance. Not just anyone will do. Mischiko Kakutani accused Carrie of “disposing” of men when she reviewed her book in Season Five; I’ve had many of my older friends and colleagues say the same thing to me. But I digress: When searching for a soulmate, one can never be too picky. And so continues the endless search. Carrie was looking for love, real love. “Ridiculous, consuming, can’t live without each other love.” And she found it, as we all hoped and predicted–in Mr. Big.
It’s easy to make a sweeping judgment of the carefree single girl–Carrie and myself included–and throw out terms like “promiscuous” and the like. Aside from the ludicrous societal double-standard, I like to believe that I’ve maintained a moral compass. You can’t look back, you can only learn. Carrie is flawed. I am flawed. We trip over things, we can’t (don’t?) cook, have messy apartments and high credit card bills due to an unshakable shopping addiction. But she’s real–still fictional–but that’s what makes the show so amazing.

The writers really, really made Carrie real and relatable to all of us. We can look at her and say: “I’m her.”

360

Now I understand what that has hovered in my head ... The pulse wants to talk and my hand can not stop ... Now I understand when eyes become indiscretion on lies and deceit ... Now that the lights are stopped and the world is still spinning, I understand, how important are the heartfelt things, that if we do not give way to feelings and desires, it is impossible clarity; that indifference covers with silences fears to lose. .. Now that it is impossible to forget feelings that arise when you're near ... Now that the devil said that attempts to disappear, I fight for what I feel; perhaps someday emerge effect and the world stops when traffic lights change color, maybe someday the world has value and formulate a sudden shift of 360 degrees ...

Seem Perfect

Her plan was very simple: spend together the rest of her days.
A plan everybody consider feasible.
No one doubted that they will be great friends, lovers, even soul mates.
She is fun, sometimes uptight and gentle.
He is free spirit, caring and tender.
Seem perfect.

But given the chance that one day the fate changed his mind.

Now she wonders in the world of the unknown.
Constantly struggling between her heart and mind.
Now she needs time.
To make things right.
Now she only wants a hand that somehow feels right.